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  • Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of action. If it leads to change then it can be useful, since it is then no longer guilt but the beginning of knowledge. Yet all too often, guilt is just another name for impotence, for defensiveness destructive of communication; it becomes a device to protect ignorance and the continuation of things the way they are, the ultimate protection for changelessness.

    Audre Lorde (2012). “Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches”, p.130, Crossing Press
  • You are completely at choice who you will be today in your interactions with others. Compassionate, kind, giving and forgiving will create one set of probabilities; angry, judgmental, critical and defensive will create another one altogether.

    FaceBook post by Marianne Williamson from Apr 27, 2013
  • When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.

  • There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors.

    Dale Carnegie (2016). “How to win friends & influence people”, p.117, Diamond Pocket Books Pvt Ltd
  • I'd say that while it's normal to long for an apology, if you really need it, you're not ready to speak to whoever harmed you. Non-apologizers tend to walk on a tightrope of defensiveness above a huge canyon of low self-esteem - they just can't listen to anything that's going to set them off balance. So focus on what you say for your own sake, because you need to hear your own voice telling the truth.

    Apology   Long   Focus  
    Source: www.elle.com
  • In I'm Not A Racist, But..., Lawrence Blum offers answers for our time about what race is, who is a racist, and ways for people to talk about the racialized features of our society without falling into name-calling or defensiveness. With exemplary moral and analytic clarity, Blum offers educators, students, lawyers, judges, leaders, and citizens tools for building a nation of equality, comity, and respect for each person.

    Fall   Race   Names  
  • The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.

  • In a person who is open to experience each stimulus is freely relayed through the nervous system, without being distorted by any process of defensiveness.

    Carl Ransom Rogers (1995). “On Becoming a Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy”, p.353, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
  • When people hear needs, it provokes compassion.

  • Guilt and defensiveness are bricks in a wall against which we all flounder; they serve none of our futures.

    Wall   Guilt   Bricks  
    Audre Lorde (2012). “Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches”, p.124, Crossing Press
  • I would advise you against defensiveness on priciple. it precludes the best eventualities along with the worst. At the most basic level it expresses a lack of faith.

    Levels   Worst   Advise  
  • When you have no defensiveness about what you think but rather you totally believe it, you are passionate about it.

    Source: www.rushlimbaugh.com
  • Cynicism and defensiveness are two things constantly levelled at me. Look, I've got time for people, I'm good mannered. I usually find that when you're down, nobody has a bloody minute for you. If I was a nobody, you wouldn't even talk to me. People, in general, don't like you being upfront and civil. They hate you for it. They label you a cynic 'cos you're reasonable.

    Hate   People   Good Man  
    Source: thequietus.com
  • guilt politics ... I regard as conveniently paralyzing, ripe for backlash defensiveness, counterproductive, and boring.

    Guilt   Politics   Boring  
    Robin Morgan (2014). “Saturday's Child: A Memoir”, p.334, Open Road Media
  • Why should you want to give up a child's wise not-understanding in exchange for defensiveness and scorn, since not-understanding is, after all, a way of being alone, whereas defensiveness and scorn are a participation in precisely what, by these means, you want to separate yourself from.

    Rainer Maria Rilke (2001). “Letters to a Young Poet”
  • I think the main thing that has to end is men's defensiveness.

    Men   Thinking   Ends  
  • I pick my favourite quotations and store them in my mind as ready armour, offensive or defensive, amid the struggle of this turbulent existence.

    Robert Burns, James Currie (1844). “The Works of Robert Burns: With Dr. Currie's Memoir of the Poet, and an Essay on His Genius and Character”, p.276
  • There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors. It not only clears up the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error

    Dale Carnegie, General Press (2016). “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, p.143, GENERAL PRESS
  • This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

  • Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one's own actions or lack of action.

    Guilt   Action   Response  
    Audre Lorde (2012). “Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches”, p.130, Crossing Press
  • Physical life is characterized by defensiveness, whereas spiritual life is just the opposite.

    Eben Alexander (2012). “Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey Into the Afterlife”, p.117, Simon and Schuster
  • Whenever I allow anything but tenderness and compassion to dictate my response to life--be it self-righteous anger, moralizing, defensiveness, the pressing need to change others...I am alienated from my true self. My identity as Abba's child [a child of God] becomes ambiguous, tentative and confused

  • As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.

  • As you embrace the present and become one with it, and merge with it, you will experience a fire, a glow, a sparkle of ecstasy throbbing in every sentient being. As you begin to experience this exultation of spirit in everything that is alive, as you become intimate with it, joy will be born within you, and you will drop the terrible burdens of defensiveness, resentment, and hurtfulness... then you will become lighthearted, carefree, joyous, and free.

  • My defensiveness in life really helps me as a driver.

    "Larry David: More Enthusiasm, Curbed". "Morning Edition" with Steve Inskeep, www.npr.org. September 23, 2005.
  • A second characteristic of the process which for me is the good life, is that it involves an increasingly tendency to live fully in each moment. I believe it would be evident that for the person who was fully open to his new experience, completely without defensiveness, each moment would be new.

    Carl Rogers (2012). “On Becoming a Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy”, p.188, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
  • The student's job is to stay open-minded, to quell the knee-jerk defensiveness we all possess in the face of suggestions for improvement, and to maintain patience when faced with a process that is often slow, confusing, and frustrating.

    Renee Fleming (2005). “The Inner Voice: The Making of a Singer”, p.57, Penguin
  • Yielding to emotions such as anger or hurt or defensiveness will drive away the Holy Ghost.

    Hurt   Emotion   Ghost  
  • It is very, very rare where a slight that turns into a grudge that is in need of forgiveness is only about one of the parties. In most of our day-to-day situations - with colleagues at work, with your partner, with your children, with your friends - most of the time, if you really got down with each other and put aside your pride and your defensiveness and you had those hard conversations, you'd find a place where both people had something to ask for forgiveness from the other and to forgive the other.

    Children   Party   Pride  
    Source: www.npr.org
  • To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

    Twitter post from Jan 17, 2014
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